Question:
I am single. I have not had a relationship since being DX with FM. Anytime I
bring it up with a date, its like I am broken, and they never stick
around that doesn't help my depression any
My question is how did everyone handle their relationships when you got DX
with FM?
I am finding it hard to go on a date with someone, and when they ask what I
do for a living I say well I have not worked since 11/30/00, and I am most
days in constant pain, I take a wide range of narcotics, I live at home with
my parents, I am always depressed, I hardly ever leave my house, but other
than that everything is honky dory!!! Oh and can I have sex, of course I
can, but forget putting me in this, this, this, or that position, or etc,
you get the point..... : ) How else can I say this, if I can get another
date ever again.
Answer:
this is hard. I don't know how old you are. Many of us are
middle-aged and either married or fed up with the dating game, but we do
need affection too.
I can tell you that I read about a young woman with fibromyalgia who found a
very caring boyfriend who accepted and did his best to understand her
condition. So in a way, her illness made it so she didn't end up with some
guy who turned out to be a creep, since all the creeps were automatically
turned off right from the beginning.
My advice would be, if you meet a man you're interested in and who seems
interested in you, let him know about your illness and how you're dealing
with it (courageously), but don't forget that you are much much more than
your illness, and let him discover all those other fascinating aspects of
your personality. If he's the one for you, he'll be more than happy to take
your condition into account in a caring way.
As far as sex is concerned, a loving man, a really, really GOOD lover, is
someone who is creative with all the possible ways to give and receive
pleasure even if there are certain imposed limits.
There is magic in life and there is destiny. Don't go looking for love from
someone else. Love yourself as much as you can, and lots of people will be
attracted to that.
